This is such a wonderful story about a first-time mom who read Henci Goer's "The Thinking Women's Guide to a Better Birth," and used a Doula. Wahoo!!!
I love how she writes and how her learning and thinking evolve. This was one of my favorite parts:
At one of her appointments she was talking to her Dr. about her cesarean rate. The Dr. didnt' know for sure, but confessed that it was around at least 40% percent. When she saw her patient's shock, she said, "Don't worry, everything is perfectly fine. We just want to make sure that baby of yours isn't getting too big."
Too big, at 18 weeks' gestation? Even so, what could she possibly suggest we do about it?Bewildered by the sonogram discussion, I suddenly remembered to ask if our doula could attend the birth with us. She (the doctor) shrugged. "Sure, if that will make you more comfortable. Just make sure your doula remembers who's in charge, okay?"I nodded obediently. On my way out, I passed the appointment desk without scheduling the 18-week sonogram.
That evening, I called our doula to report what the doctor had said. She stated plainly, "Of course I remember who's in charge. You are."