Welcome to my Doula Blog! I hope you find it interesting and informative.
My name is Natalie. I am a wife, a mother of almost five boys, a doula, and a Hypnobabies Instructor! I'm passionate about childbirth and hope to help women realize the power that is in them to birth more normally and naturally. It's my goal to help women feel confident and comfortable during pregnancy, labor, and delivery. Yes, it is possible! It's also amazing, incredible, wonderful, empowering, and life changing.
As a doula, I am a trained professional who understands and trusts the process of birth. I provide continuous care for the laboring mother and her partner. Studies have shown that when doulas attend births, labors are shorter with fewer complications. I attend to women in labor to help ensure a safe and satisfying birth experience in both home and hospital settings. I draw on my knowledge and experience to provide emotional support, physical comfort and, as needed, communication with the other members of your birth team to make sure that you have the information that you need to make informed decisions in labor. I can provide reassurance and perspective to the laboring mother and her partner, make suggestions for labor progress, and help with relaxation, massage, positioning and other techniques for comfort.
1. You Shall Be Sympathetic to Morning Sickness....All Day....
I don't know who decided to call it morning sickness, but the name is misleading. Morning sickness can happen all day long, from the moment she wakes up until the moment she sleeps. You must be sympathetic and offer to hold her hair while she pukes. She'll probably yell at you to get the heck out of the bathroom, but your offer will go a long way.
2. You Shall Not Ask her to "Hold It"
Don't ever ask her if she can hold it. She can't. Get her to a restroom immediately. Be very concerned. She may ask you to pull the car over so she can pee on the side of the road. Do it. Don't question her or you will have a problem on your hands. In fact, never question a pregnant woman who has to pee; you're just asking for trouble. (I, personally, have wet myself on several occasions and it's not pleasant. )
3. You Shall Not Take Her Hunger Lightly
A hungry pregnant woman is more threatening than stumbling across a bear cub in the woods and then seeing his mama 10 feet away eyeballing you. Get her some food now, you fool! And then go get her more food while she's eating that food. I don't care if it's three in the morning; you can't go wrong with food. I cannot stress the importance of keeping a pregnant woman full. It could save your marriage. Oh, you thought I was kidding, didn't you? That's cute. I’m not.
4. You Shall Not Covet Cologne
Pregnant women develop super powers - they can puke like a fire hose and they can smell better than a bloodhound on the hunt. That cologne that used to be so sexy on you now sucks, so stop wearing it. And that spray deodorant is making her feel murderous and you would be the first victim. It's not her fault she can smell you three hours after you leave for work, it's yourfault (just play along with this for now).
5. Honor Mood Changes
Don't even think about blaming it on hormones unless you're looking to get hurt. You don't know what a pregnant woman is capable of doing. She probably doesn't know either, but do you really want to find out? Just keep in mind that in conjunction with these mood changes it will take your lady a fraction of the time to get upset compared to the good old days, which means your escape window is now significantly smaller. (Remember this in case you break a commandment.)
6. You Shall Not Bear False Witness Against Female Anatomy
Most everything seems to change! Things expand, change color, stretch out, and leak. Listen dude, you won't look at women the same way, but you must smile and nod and try to look sympathetic to all these bodily changes. Think about how sad it was when Apollo Creed died at the end of Rocky IV. If you keep that image in mind while the ladies talk private parts, you will appear compassionate and everyone will love that none of this grosses you out in the slightest.
7. Remember, She Will Get Freaked Out
All these articles she is reading online are driving her mad. It’s your job to find another article that debunks the first article, print it out and highlight it. You must also rage at the author of the first article, ‘Blank is an idiot! He/she doesn't know what they're talking about!'
8. Do Not Expect her to Maintain her Pre-Pregnancy Activity Levels
She tires easily and won't be able to keep up with her normal activities, so you will have to take on more. This may include doing the dishes, laundry, vacuuming and possibly some light dusting. Do it, don't complain. If you complain, immediately reread commandment number 5. Get out of the house now, you are in danger. Don't come home until you bring food.
9. You Shall Not Take the Word Pee in Vain
If she says she has to pee again, she does. Yes, she just went 10 minutes ago, but she has to go again. Seriously.
10. She is the One, The Only One
You will do well to smile and nod and pretend that she’s always right because as horrible as you think it is to bow to your goddess right now, it is twenty times more horrible being pregnant and then pushing a human being out of very sensitive lady parts. But guess what? It's all worth it. Just wait until you hold your son or daughter for the very first time — you will look at your wife and know that yes, she is in fact, a goddess. And that goddess will look at you with the same awe.
Natalie is very patient, kind and thoughtful. She aims to please and is very interested in learning and offering new techiniques and services that will help you with your birth. It was really nice to have an extra person there for the birth of our daughter and I am glad it was Natalie! -Cheryl Lee Eberting, MD
I finally have a minute to sit down and email you. I cannot thank you enough for being such a wonderful doula! I would never have made it without you. I feel so proud that I actually did it! The recovery has been amazing. I am going to recommend you to everyone!
Thanks Natalie! You were amazing, thank you so much again! He is a wonderful baby! We are so blessed! Thanks for taking part! Couldn't have been able to do that amazing feat with out you! I highly recommend you! -Aimee S.
I love the movie you made for us! It totally made me cry. I am so glad you were there. Thank you for everything! Let me know if you need any references in the future. -Lee E.