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Welcome to my Doula Blog! I hope you find it interesting and informative.

My name is Natalie. I am a wife, a mother of almost five boys, a doula, and a Hypnobabies Instructor! I'm passionate about childbirth and hope to help women realize the power that is in them to birth more normally and naturally. It's my goal to help women feel confident and comfortable during pregnancy, labor, and delivery. Yes, it is possible! It's also amazing, incredible, wonderful, empowering, and life changing.

As a doula, I am a trained professional who understands and trusts the process of birth. I provide continuous care for the laboring mother and her partner. Studies have shown that when doulas attend births, labors are shorter with fewer complications. I attend to women in labor to help ensure a safe and satisfying birth experience in both home and hospital settings. I draw on my knowledge and experience to provide emotional support, physical comfort and, as needed, communication with the other members of your birth team to make sure that you have the information that you need to make informed decisions in labor. I can provide reassurance and perspective to the laboring mother and her partner, make suggestions for labor progress, and help with relaxation, massage, positioning and other techniques for comfort.

Feel free to contact me at doulanataliesue@gmail.com.
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Friday, February 11, 2011

Doulas Aren't Just for Hippie Homebirths

Midwives and doulas both play important roles in a birth. A midwife can be someone with medical training who aids you at a hospital, birthing center, or even in your home. But a doula's role is much different, and often very misunderstood.
Even more misunderstood is the value of a doula.
After all, why would you want to pay hundreds of dollars for someone just to focus on YOU, especially if you're in a hospital, or even having a c-section,why would you want a doula?
Well, there are lots of reasons why ...
Well, first remember that the midwife's job is to be there for you birthing your baby. To help you move around, watch for any red flags, and know what to do if any situations NEED interference or guidance, or rarely, medical intervention (certified midwives have life-saving tools and training, much like an EMT).
Your doula's job, on the other hand, has little to do with the baby and everything to do WITH YOU. Her title translates to "servant of the mother." Her job is to focus on you, and just you. Women who use doulas often have less complications and shorter labors.
In a home birth setting, she can help gently remind you of things you wanted to try, such as a birthing ball, different pushing positions, a hot shower, or a back massage. She can start the tub for you if she sees you're getting uncomfortable. She can help you remember birth affirmations (positive phrases) such as, "My body is made to do this" and "Self-doubt is the sign that it's almost over", which you can choose ahead of time.
In a hospital setting, she can help you keep your mind on the goals you had in advance. A good doula will ask, "Did you want time to think about that?" if a nurse is demanding you have something done, so you can be free of pressure before making decisions, and help with reminding you and your partner of the choices you'd made ahead of time about things such as methods of pain management, positions you'd like to try. She can remind you of things you'd intented on asking for, such as no mention of an epidural being made in your presence, that the wireless fetal monitors be used before they suggest you lay down. In essence, your birth plan. For example, if you're having back labor, rocking on hands and knees can help immensely, and that can be a part of your plan that your doula reminds you of, since in labor, stress can take over ... especially if the situation isn't kept stress-free (part of her job as well).
I wish I'd had a doula during my birth, especially for the time where my husband had to leave me by myself while he took my son to my friend's to be babysat. That was when I hit transition, and freaked out. The self-doubt got to me, and I had no one to talk me down or comfort me at that point, which a doula would have done.
She can even be your support during a c-section, to help you emotionally during both the surgery prep, and during the hard time after the baby's out, where often you can't see them, and the sensations are nauseating. She can help remind you (or your spouse) that you wanted the baby brought to you as soon as possible to initiate breastfeeding, or that your husband was going to keep the baby in his sight at all times and remind doctors that no formula or glucose was to be given. Or whatever things you might choose. Everyone has preferences.
The biggest questions is: Does a doula replace your husband/partner? The answer is absolutely, positively NOT. In fact their goal is often to help your partner be MORE involved, letting him know that putting gentle pressure at this certain point on your back can help, or showing him how to support you while you squat. Her goal is never, ever to replace your partner but actually to make him feel even more useful and important.
If you're interested in a doula, interview them during your pregnancy, and be discriminate -- you need to feel very comfortable with this person, or the point is moot. Your spouse should be part of the interview process as well.
If you're a military spouse and your husband is deployed for your birth, you can actually get a doula (for free) through Operation Special Delivery.
Posted by Christie Haskell 

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Delayed Cord Clamping

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Delaying clamping the umbilical cord at birth may have far reaching benefits for your baby according to researchers at the University of South Florida’s Center of Excellence for Aging and Brain Repair— and should be delayed for at least a few minutes longer after birth. This new recommendation published in the most recent Journal of Cellular and Molecular Medicine (14:3) notes that delaying clamping the umbilical cord allows more umbilical cord blood and crucial stem cells to transfer from mama to baby.
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With this transfer of blood University of South Florida notes that babies gain many benefits. Benefits include:
  • Babies receive beneficial stem cells have many therapeutic properties vs. when you clamp the cord and shut off that flow of stem cells.
  • Researchers note that “In pre-term infants, delaying clamping the cord for at least 30 seconds reduced incidences of intraventricular hemorrhage, late on-set sepsis, anemia, and decreased the need for blood transfusions.“
  • Receiving cord blood may also reduce a baby’s risk of other illnesses, including respiratory distress, chronic lung disease and eye disease.
  • Delayed cord clamping also ensures that a baby receives important clotting factors.
This USF research may be new, but the idea of waiting to clamp the umbilical cord is anything but.Routine cord clamping has only been around since the 1930s and even since then many health care providers, midwives in particular, but many MDs as well, have disagreed with this practice. A2003 study discusses waiting to clamp the cord specifically to protect the brains of babies who suffer birth trauma or asphyxiation at birth. Sarah Buckley’s “A Natural Approach to the Third Stage of Labour,” Midwifery Today Issue 59 lists multiple studies reaching as far back as the 1960s which point to delayed cord cutting as beneficial.
So why clamp early?
Science Daily notes, “In recent Western medical practice, early clamping — from 30 seconds to one minute after birth — remains the most common practice among obstetricians and midwives, perhaps because the benefits of delaying clamping have not been clear.” However, what’s not quite clear is WHY the current research is considered unclear.  Multiple studies and books over dozens of yearshave mentioned much of what is mentioned in this new USF research. Most advocates of waiting to clamp the cord suggest waiting for more than a minute, or until the cord completely stops pulsating to cut the cord thus allowing your baby the full benefits of umbilical blood.
In the end, at least right now, why hospitals are still clamping early is a problem left to parents. As parents waiting to cut the cord is something you can include in your birth plan and an issue you should discuss with your midwife or doctor.
*Sources – Science Daily & msnbc

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

First Appointment

I went to my first appointment today. I've decided to start with the CNM's here in the closest "big" town to me. They are about 45 minutes away and their clinic is attached to the hospital I would deliver at.
These midwives seem really great. I've heard so many good things about them. They are very natural minded, patient, and pro-women's choice.
I met with one today and we went over nutrition, etc. She also let me ask her a lot of questions, mostly about labor and delivery.  I had an awful experience with a nurse at the hospital so I know it's early on, but I told her that I could not birth with her there. I actually felt a little validated after I talked to her about this nurse. Apparently she is very rude and makes everyone cry. So I didn't feel like such a wimp after all. If she makes med students cry too, then there is something wrong with her. Anyway, I'm sad I'm not the only one, but glad that my reaction seemed to correlate with everyone else's.
I was very happy to hear that she's not into drugs and medication. If I go way over my due date she has ideas on how to encourage induction. One of those ways is with a fully bulb.  I also told her I'd try acupuncture and chiropractic and she was totally on board with that too. She doesn't like to use pitocin. But she also doesn't tel her patients what to do. We discussed the fact that over time we have learned that people have to be educated for themselves. I've learned that just from being a doula. Sometimes my clients do things that I wouldn't choose, but I don't judge them because number 1 -it's their body, baby and choices, and number 2, if they don't know anything else, then they are doing their best. For instance, I had one client who had a posterior baby and when I suggested that she push for a bit on her hands and knees, she thought that was the absolute weirdest thing she had ever heard, and wanted to lay on her back. Things were just fine and that is what she felt comfortable with. Anyway, so that goes for everything!  I once told a client how scary I thought the drug cytotec was for inducing labor and that it made me really uncomfortable and nervous, but she still chose it. That is up to her and what she feels she needs to do. I don't control people. :)
Anyway, it was fun talking to her. Sounds like she will do anything she can to help me in whatever way I want. She said she's delivered plenty of babies on the toilet. So it's nice to know that I won't be stuck in a bed on my back.
Then of course I went and got blood work done. Fun, fun.
I almost asked for drugs for morning sickness, but I didn't. I decided that since I wasn't throwing up profusely and lacking nutrients, I would stick it out.  Yuck. It is not fun. I'm grateful to a husband that has done all the laundry and dishes since I'm on the couch most days all days.

Saturday, January 8, 2011

Morning Sickness has hit...

I'm a little over 5 weeks and I'm feeling the sickness coming on.  I have the blessing of feeling sick all day long. I wake up and go to sleep feeling nauseous. I can't wait for the sensitive gag reflex that kicks me into dry-heaving fits. Here goes nothing.
I did go to the store to stock up on snacks. I also bought Vitamin B and Ginger Pills. Along with my essential oils, I hope I can find some relief in all of this!

Sunday, January 2, 2011

Positive!

Happy New Year! We are expecting again. This will be our third baby and I'm so excited.
Here's the scoop.
I had my first babies close together. J came in March of 2007. Then I was all of a sudden pregnant again in September 2008.  It was quite a surprise since I thought I was following my cycle pretty closely. Obviously not closely enough. I was really scared at first to have another baby so soon, since having a first baby proved to be hard and exhausting for me.  Try as I might, we couldn't teach him to breastfeed. Nothing came normally. I tried everything. Finally when the Children's Hospital Therapist told me that my child just did not have a good sucking reflex, I caved in and allowed myself to feel okay about pumping and feeding him with a bottle. I did this every two hours for the first four months of his life.  Day and night.  So when I was pregnant two months later, I was a little overwhelmed. But I soon was comforted in knowing that I could do this again. I had time to prepare and a good tempered first baby.  He came along in June 2008 and was a blessing. He nursed right away and things weren't as hard.  I know now, why he was sent to our family so quickly.  He has surely been a blessing and I think it is wonderful, and SO good for my first child to have a playmate so close to his age. They are the best of friends and they are only 3 and 2.
SO... I decided that a good time to have another baby would be when my youngest was 3. I didn't want them too close together or too far apart.
I had my IUD removed in August and hoped to be pregnant as soon as possible after that. September came, not pregnant. October, not pregnant, November, not pregnant, and then December. We really didn't have to wait/try  for too long.  I had an epiphany in December. I decided to pretend like it was September 2007, and without going into any details, we were pregnant! Funny thing.
Although I did not know we were pregnant right off. I took a pregnancy test the first day that I skipped my period. It was negative.
Four days late, my cycle still had not showed up. I had a houseful of family members on New Year's Day. You have to know that I have a great relationship with my sister in laws. I don't keep many secrets from them. So they all knew that I wanted to be pregnant. In fact, one of them had also been wanting another baby and we kind of went through this together, but she was already pregnant. So she had been asking for the update every month too.
Well, the topic of conversation came up. If I knew any news this month. I told them, no. I told them the pregnancy test was negative. Then I mentioned that it had been four days and I still hadn't started.
They begged me to go take another test! They offered to buy me more tests since I just had one left. I laughed and said that I wouldn't because knowing my luck, I was supposed to start in the morning.
But only and hour or so went by and I just got too curious.
So I snuck into my bathroom and took another test.
At first nothing. Then, it looked like a faint pink line was appearing. My heart started racing. I couldn't believe it. Were my eyes playing tricks on me? hahah. I blinked and blinked. I thought I was going to cry. It was so faint that I didn't know what to think. I walked out to the family room, looked at a couple of sisters and told them to hurry and c'mere.  I think tears were welling in my eyes. :)  So of course they all ran back. They looked at the test and shreiked, "You're pregnant!"  And we all started hugging and I started crying. Then my husband came in. hahah. Poor guy.  But he was excited and in a little disbelief.  Pretty soon all the brothers-in-law were in my bedroom. Hahaha. Told you we were a close family. So they all told me congratulations. It was a big "Positive Party."
That was my first experience with having so many people there at the moment of truth, and I must admit that it was pretty darn fun. Maybe I'll do it next time too. J/K.
So there you go! We are expecting...due September 7th, but planning on September 21st ish. Which will disappoint my down-syndrome niece extremely, since her birthday is September 7th so I am now to have a baby on her birthday. :)  Poor girl reminds me everyday. But I do like that she says I'm having a girl. We'll have to see!
We are excited.....now to face the morning sickness. Yuck!

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Midwives vs OB's

Reading on another blog recently, I came across an interesting comment by a physician.  He wrote that he    disagrees with a statement he frequently hears, that "midwifery care is superior care”.  Well, I’m here as a    midwife to tell you that midwifery care is not  superior care.
  • Midwives are not as highly educated as physicians.  Regardless of what type of midwife you might see, she will not have an education equivalent to that of an OB, who has gone to four years of college, four years of medical school, and at least an additional four years of residency.
  • Midwives cannot perform certain procedures that an OB can perform.  Some examples would be cesarean section, gynecological surgery, and forceps deliveries.
  • OBs, by virtue of their more comprehensive education, have greater in-depth knowledge of complications of pregnancy and birth.
After hearing this, you might be thinking, “An OB is definitely the best choice then, for prenatal care.”  But let me share with you  what I see as the best features of midwifery care:
  • Midwives listen more.  While there are many OBs who are good listeners, they generally have a much tighter schedule than midwives, on average allowing only 5-10 minutes per prenatal visit.  Contrast this with the 30-60 minutes a midwife allows.  The greater time at a midwife visit permits both parties to develop a real relationship.   Listening also allows midwives to pinpoint when things aren’t going right, as in this experience related by a midwife friend of mine:
“I was approached by a woman in my community who was receiving prenatal care from a local OB.  She asked for a consultation, and told me she was greatly concerned about symptoms of intense itching that she kept experiencing.  The itching was so severe that she was scratching in her sleep until her skin bled.  She’d gone to her OB several times, and each time he told her not to worry, that she had something called PUPPs, and it would go away when the baby was born.  He finally told her to stop calling him about the itching, because nothing could be done for it.  I didn’t have any knowledge about her problem that the OB didn’t have, and in fact, I had no idea what could be wrong.  But I listened carefully to her concerns, and she was worried that something more serious was wrong.  She told me she’d had hepatitis A as  a child, and wondered if this could be related?  I had no idea!  But I told her I would do some research.  I studied in my Williams Obstetrics, and read about a condition called obstetric hepatosis, which could cause intense itching, elevated liver enzymes, and in extreme cases, stillbirth.  I  ordered some blood tests for her, and sure enough, her liver enzymes were elevated.  I copied the pages from the textbook and the lab reports and gave them to the woman, who by now had decided she wanted a home birth with me.  When she took the information to her doctor, he looked at it, diagnosed her with obstetric hepatosis and told her that her condition was too high risk to be managed by only a midwife.  I did not have any special knowledge that I used, but I did use my ability to listen to this woman and trust her intuition that something was wrong, and then I searched until I found the answer.”
  • Midwives talk more. How could talking more be a good thing?  Let me share an experience that is representative of a situation I encounter at least once a month.  A woman came for her first prenatal visit, accompanied by a friend.  At the first visit, I normally go over all the tests she will be offered during the pregnancy, give her information on the risks and benefits, and let her know that she has the right to either accept the test or decline it, and her choice will not affect our care of her.  The woman’s friend kept asking me questions about the glucose test, the quad screen, and the group B strep test.  As they were leaving, she told me, “I had all those tests done during my pregnancy, but I never knew why.  My doctor only told me they were required and nothing more.  I learned more here in one hour than I learned my entire pregnancy with my OB!”  While I don’t have more knowledge than an OB, all the knowledge in the world does little good if it is not shared with the woman who will be the recipient of it.  It is a simple thing to explain risks and benefits of procedures, and ask the woman what her thoughts and questions are.  Another woman came to my office asking me to accept her as a transfer patient, three days before her due date!  I don’t mind taking transfer patients at any time, but I sensed she was not really seeking midwifery care, but just frustrated with her doctor.  I asked some questions, and she revealed that she was tired of being pregnant and wanted her doctor to induce her.  She was upset that he would not discuss it with her, but just said “NO”.  I spent half and hour with her, explaining the risks of induction, the benefit of letting labor start on its own, and reassuring her that she had the strength to wait out these last few days of pregnancy.  She was so appreciative as she left, hugging me, and thanking me for taking the time to explain to her the things her doctor never did.
  • Midwives more often do nothing. This doesn’t sound like an attribute until you realize that many wise midwives and physicians have said the hardest thing to learn is the art of sitting on your hands.  The temptation to intervene and “help” the laboring woman with her work is sometimes overwhelming.  Midwives often do nothing more than simply be present.  That presence can be life-saving, as I have had multiple experiences where I was working in a hospital setting, and something I noticed because of being with the woman continually during labor tipped me off to the fact that there was a problem.  I’ve delivered many babies by myself in the hospital because the nurses were out of the room and the baby came before they could respond to the call light.  Although many physicians bristle at the notion that midwives are experts in normal birth, just ask one if they have ever sat through an entire labor with a woman, from start to finish.  So far, I have yet to meet an OB who has ever done this.  An ‘aha’ moment occurred for me when I watched Ricki Lake’s DVD, The Business of Being Born. Three resident OB physicians from Columbia University were being interviewed, and were asked how often they saw a normal birth occur.  The three looked at each other blankly, and finally one resident admitted, “Never”.   An experienced midwife has observed normal labor in its entirety so frequently, that if labor becomes complicated, she will pick up quickly on subtle indications that all is not well.  As I often tell my students, it’s impossible to learn every possible complication and condition.  It’s much more important to know what is normal–backwards and forwards–so that when you see something that’s NOT normal, you will know right away and can get appropriate consultation in a timely manner.
It all boils down to the fact that midwives do NOT give superior care.  They give different care. As long as we persist in drawing a line in the sand, and each camp thinking they are better than the other, we can’t give optimal care to the people who really matter the most–the women we serve.   A recent editorial in the  Journal of Family Practice stressed the need to work together, rather than compete.  I can’t compete with what an OB does best, but I don’t think most OBs can compete with what I do best.  We each excel in our own area.
Over two hundred years ago, Dr. Benjamin Rush, a physician (Rush Medical School is named after him) and signer of the Declaration of Independence, had this to say about competition among health care providers:
“The Constitution of this Republic should make special provision for medical freedom. To restrict the art of healing to one class will constitute the Bastille of medical science. All such laws are un-American and despotic. … Unless we put medical freedom into the constitution the time will come when medicine will organize into an undercover dictatorship and force people who wish doctors and treatment of their own choice to submit to only what the dictating outfit offers.”¹
It is high time we recognize the unique abilities we each bring to the table, and work together to build respect among all of us, so we can offer the best of care to women and their babies.
1.  The Wellness Directory of Minnesota.  The history of medicine.  Retrieved 12/13/10 from:  http://www.mnwelldir.org/docs/history/history03.htm

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Friday, November 12, 2010

Women Speak Out About What's Gone Wrong with the United States Birthing System

"Women die in childbirth as a result of systemic failures including: barriers to accessing care, inadequate, neglectful or discriminatory care, and overuse of risky interventions like inducing labor and delivering via cesarean section." -- Amnesty International 

2010-10-20-pregnant_momtobe.jpgFor many of us who haven't yet been through childbirth, there's an image we have of what it's like: A woman is rushed to the hospital in a taxi; she gets put in a wheelchair and is rolled down the hallway in dire emergency; then we see her screaming, and yelling in pain and then... there's the baby.
Sadly, this is the image that a lot of television shows have put into our minds, and have led many of us to believe: Birth is scary. Birth is dangerous. And it might be better if we just numb out through the whole experience.
Because so many women don't have an image of what a natural, empowered birth looks like, there is a lot of fear surrounding the act giving birth. Accordingly, the majority of women give their inner authority over to doctors in their birth process. They trust the doctors more than themselves. The problem with this is that many women aren't aware that the majority of her doctor's medical decisions are being made today for monetary and legal reasons, and not necessarily for the good of her and her baby.
Here is the reality: Hospitals are businesses. They want those beds filled and emptied. They aren't really interested in having women with long labors hanging around. And there is something else you should know: Having a baby in a hospital might not be as safe as you thought.
Did you know that the United States has the second worst newborn death rate in the developed world... and one of the highest maternal mortality rates among all industrialized countries?
2010-10-20-childbirth_Europe.jpgYou can go to any other developed country in the world, and you will find that they are losing fewer women and fewer babies around the time of birth. The important thing to know here is that in these countries, midwives are attending 70 to 80 percent of the births (doctors are there for the small percentage that have complications). In the United States, midwives attend less than 8 percent of births.
Why is this number so low?
"I've interviewed a lot of nurse midwives and I've noticed that as soon as their practice reaches over 30 percent of the women in a certain hospital, the doctor will start firing them because that's too much competition," said medical anthropologist Robbie Davis-Floyd, PhD, in an interview for the documentary The Business of Being Born.
Hmmmm... interesting.
The common way to have birth now is be Cesarean section. Today in the United States, the Cesarean section rate is at an all-time high. Since 1996 the C-section rate has risen 50 percent, according to the National Center for Health Statistics.
Today one out of every three babies comes into this world by C-section.
This seems like a crazy statistic. What is really going on here?
Marsden Wagner, M.D., former director of Women's and Children's Health at the World Health Organization, gave his opinion in an interview for The Business of Being Born: "A Cesarean is extremely doctor-friendly, because instead of having a woman in labor for an average of 12 hours, 7 days a week. It's 20 minutes, and I'll be home for dinner."
Many women come to the hospital with a plan for a natural birth, but all too often their birth plan changes very quickly based on a doctor's decision (that is not necessarily based on any real complication). For example, one friend of mine had written a birth plan with her doctor. She would be having a natural, vaginal birth at St. John's Health Center in in Santa Monica, California. On the day of my friend's birth, her doctor did not show up. So my friend was then under the charge of another doctor. This doctor decided that instead of the natural birth my friend had wanted, she should have a C-section. His reason: she was taking too long in labor.
But the doctor forbade my friend from squatting and getting on all fours (apparently against hospital policy), even though it felt so good for her and it opened up her pelvis. (FYI: When he left the room, she went ahead and squatted anyway.) My friend knew she could give birth naturally. She felt deep inside that she had the strength and power to do this. She trusted herself. But the doctor kept insisting on a C-section.
After fighting off some medical interventions that the doctor was insisting on (one of these was the "fetal probe"), and a lot of eye rolling and shaming from the hospital staff in the process, her baby was born. While my friend was happy as can be about her new baby girl, she explained to me: "The birth was something that should have been beautiful, but degenerated into something that wasn't."
As Nadine Goodman, Public Health Specialist, has put it: "What the medical profession has done over the past 40, 50 years is convince the vast majority of women that they don't know how to birth."
I have heard too many stories from friends and family members where the hospital told them that they were open to the natural birth they wanted, but then the reality was so different. First came the Pitocin to speed up the labor, then the epidural to dull the pain from the strong contractions caused by the Pitocin, and then the C-section "for the safety of the baby."
"We need to make sure that we reduce the overuse of interventions that are not always necessary, like C-sections, and increase access to the care that we know is good for mothers and babies, like labor support." -- Maureen Corry, executive director of Childbirth Connection
As Dr. Eden Fromberg, OB/GYN, has admitted in an interview: "There was a doctor who used to train me who said, 'They can never fault you if you just section them. Just section them.'" In other words, the current thinking in the medical world is: avoid being sued at all costs.
"There's the prevailing sense among doctors that you don't get sued for the C-section you do, only the ones you don't," said Nan Strauss, a maternal health researcher for Amnesty International, quoted in The New York Times. Amnesty International published a report earlier this year declaring the country in the midst of a crisis in maternal health care.
The reality is that once the hospital starts with an intervention, it becomes a domino effect. They say: Thank God we were able to do all of these interventions to save your baby. But, as Eugene Declerqc, Ph.D., Professor of Maternal and Fetal Health at Boston University School of Public Health has said
.... the fact of the matter is if they didn't start the cascading of interventions, none of the rest would have been necessary.
[By the way, putting a woman flat on her back for giving birth literally makes her pelvis smaller and makes it much more difficult for her to use her stomach muscles to push. The result: It is much more likely that she will need an episiotomy and a vacuum or forceps will be used to deliver the baby.]
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Negotiating their way through the hospital environment is a power struggle that many women aren't interested in, so they are choosing to have their babies at home.
"For most women who are having a normal, healthy pregnancy, it can be safer to have a home birth," saidCecily Miller, prenatal and perinatal specialist living in Los Angeles, in an interview with me.
When I asked Ms. Miller to tell me more about the benefits of a home birth for expectant moms, here is what she told me:
"Giving birth is a rite of passage. It is an initiation into motherhood. If we want an empowered initiation where women are honored in the female body, and we are ushering in new life to the society, then women need to feel safe in their birth process... Giving birth is the most intimate experience we can imagine. And how we make love is how we want to give birth."
Cecily explained to me that the qualities of making love and the qualities of the environment -- dim lights, private space, intimate space -- is the same conducive environment for birth. It should be a place where a woman feels she can be herself, which, as Cecily explained, is usually at home.
Sure makes sense to me.
When a woman is at home she can groan and make natural sounds (these sounds actually open up her pelvis); she can eat when we she needs to; rest when she needs to; have privacy when she needs to; kiss her partner, be held; walk around, look out at nature, and basically do what feels best for her. "The comforts of home afford a woman her ground, her roots... and then the body will naturally in most cases, open, and will give birth," explained Cecily.
A friend of mine who had both of her babies at home described just that: "The best thing about giving birth at home was that I never had to leave my home. I could be rooted there. My husband brought me smoothies. I could hop in the tub when I wanted to. I could get on all fours. Then after the birth, I was exhausted and all I wanted to do was curl up with my baby, and that is exactly what I did."
When I asked her about her confidence level for her home birth, she explained to me that through her birth classes and her yoga practice she felt prepared. "Deep breathing, steady focus, determination, and a desire to do it myself helped me bring my babies into the world." she said. My friend explained that when the time came, she allowed her body to take over and do the rest. "I really do believe we are all strong women. I think the whole hospital realm has brainwashed women to think: 'Oh you can't handle this, so we will give you drugs.' It's pretty sad." Agreed. She added: "While giving birth was the most challenging thing I've done in my life, having my children at home was comforting, inspiring and empowering."
While a home birth might not be for every woman, it's my hope that more women will consider it as an alternative to the institutionalized and currently over-medicalized environment of the hospital. As Cara Muhlhahn, a Certified Nurse Midwife in practice for more than 10 years, has said: A home birth gives the power back to the woman.
To join an online community of women sharing information, advice and experiences about home births and natural childbirth choices, please visitwww.mybestbirth.com.
To learn more about the current situation in hospitals, please see the documentary film, The Business of Being Born

Tabby Biddle